you've never been in an abusive relationship and it shows. Ideally no one should ever be in one. I hope it's ok if I copy pase a reply I did to someone else, but I'm getting a lot of replies and there's no point in writing the same thing twice: I would never agree to those terms, so they don't apply to me. the problem is that society, states, and religion pushes those standards as if they are the only correct form of relationships. they are arbitrary rules based on ancient forms of control, where women were seen as free household labor and baby factories.