Don't mind the copy-paste at all, and I happen to (more or less) agree with the statement as is. My counterpoint is despite these pressures, it is something you do not have to accept for yourself, but not at the expense of violating the trust of someone you promised you'd be monogamous with. You can be poly, you can swing, you can have mistresses/whatever the masculine equivalent word is, whatever. But you have to be honest in your romantic/sexual dealings, so people can make choices that are appropriate for them with a full understanding. And if you are in a relationship where you *can't* be honest, then IMO you need to get out. Nothing good will come from staying, and much worse can come from cheating. I will admit, however, that I have not been in a abusive relationship in the strictest sense of the term (what's a little financial abuse and gaslighting between friends - I'd put an emoji here but can't find one bitter enough. I understand what you mean though), and that does inform/limit my perspective. We may need to agree to disagree here.