there are some coerciveness in the fact that monogamy is the expected relationship, enforced by religions, families, and states. and as a normarive thing, it should at least bw questioned, even if you agree with it. like murder is bad, that is a normarive statement enforced by religions and states. but questining it, I have to agree, murder IS bad. and guess what. if you disagree with me, (this is a conversation not a debate but indulge me the following statement) I'll call it a win if you just question it, even if you don't change your mind.