@fluffy @adrienne @shibacomputer @Mer__edith thank you! so apparently they haven't even switched it to "only notify mutuals", which some other privacy-oriented ones have done. I'll bet abusers are thrilled :blobfoxsad: I'm also assuming that happened before you had the opportunity to change that "find me" setting, which iirc needs you to set up a username, which can only happen after it's too late? ("mutual contact data" does not at all imply "desire to contact" so I think this is still horrifically bad if not opt-in, bit it would at least be slightly less horrifying)