@Susan60 @Maker_of_Things The thing that put my parents off was my Dad saw how much Mom had to do to care for his Dad when her own parents had died years before and they didn't want me, in particular, to put my partner through the same thing They know I'm soft when it comes to that sort of thing but also really unorganised and it would be Jen who did everything. That's why they got my sister to be the one to stop me doing it by making her executor of all the legal stuff. They thought about it