I think a lot of people need to learn to communicate more explicitly. There’s also the ask culture vs guess culture dynamic, though I think it can extend past culture and some people lean one way or the other. There’s also the idea that guess culture is feminine coded in America and ask culture is masculine coded. To a guess culture, outright stating your desires is imposing. You hint and if they’re willing to give it they offer. Furthermore saying no to a direct request is also seen as rude. In general directness is bad, preemptive offering is proper (and obviously they have to reject for fear of imposing), and hinting is acceptable. Think stereotypes of English culture. It’s a stupid social dance that I instinctively fall into. To an ask culture all that’s stupid, there’s nothing wrong with asking for something and it’s not problem to say no. It’s direct and blunt. Think stereotypes of American culture. It’s generally quite good to be able to navigate and accommodate both, but as a guesser, asking is better as a default, especially in relationships. It’s awkward and difficult to learn, but it takes all the guesswork and ambiguity out.