@cstross@wandering.shop enculturate might be more accurate in some ways, but it feels much less familiar which means it requires more explanation.

But I do think the lack of context is probably what's throwing people off, particularly in that they're so many steps removed from the definition.

"Socialized male" is basically shortened from "they socialized me male" (transitive verb form) vs people are confusing it with "I socialized with men" (intransitive verb form)