Matthew | The Autistic Coach

@theautisticcoach@neurodifferent.me

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I’m Matthew (he/they) and I build neuro-affirming autistic communities by empowering my fellow #ActuallyAutistic humans with advocacy methods & self-care tools for navigating an NT world based on productivism.   My personal interests include #History #Autism #Whales #Jazz #Baseball #Korea #Oasis #Judaism #Dogs #THFC & I’m passionate about pizza, coffee, and Jewish deli.    Check out my various links and work in the About tab

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My Website:

https://theautisticcoach.com

FREE Autistic Discussion Circles:

https://www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-discussion-affirmation-circles

Autism Workshops for Autistic Adults:

https://www.theautisticcoach.com/autistic-group-coaching-finding-your-autistic-self

My Jewish Community Work:

https://www.theautisticrabbi.com

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Matthew | The Autistic Coach

@theautisticcoach@neurodifferent.me

I’m Matthew (he/they) and I build neuro-affirming autistic communities by empowering my fellow # ActuallyAutistic humans with advocacy methods & self-care tools for navigating an NT world based on productivism.   My personal interests include # History # Autism # Whales # Jazz # Baseball # Korea # Oasis # Judaism # Dogs # THFC & I’m passionate about pizza, coffee, and Jewish deli.    Check out my various links and work in the About tab

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Matthew | The Autistic Coach

@theautisticcoach@neurodifferent.me

I’m Matthew (he/they) and I build neuro-affirming autistic communities by empowering my fellow # ActuallyAutistic humans with advocacy methods & self-care tools for navigating an NT world based on productivism.   My personal interests include # History # Autism # Whales # Jazz # Baseball # Korea # Oasis # Judaism # Dogs # THFC & I’m passionate about pizza, coffee, and Jewish deli.    Check out my various links and work in the About tab

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@theautisticcoach@neurodifferent.me · 5d ago

stop calling disabled people having basic human rights and support "benefits" or "advantages"

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Matthew | The Autistic Coach

@theautisticcoach@neurodifferent.me

I’m Matthew (he/they) and I build neuro-affirming autistic communities by empowering my fellow # ActuallyAutistic humans with advocacy methods & self-care tools for navigating an NT world based on productivism.   My personal interests include # History # Autism # Whales # Jazz # Baseball # Korea # Oasis # Judaism # Dogs # THFC & I’m passionate about pizza, coffee, and Jewish deli.    Check out my various links and work in the About tab

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Matthew | The Autistic Coach

@theautisticcoach@neurodifferent.me

I’m Matthew (he/they) and I build neuro-affirming autistic communities by empowering my fellow # ActuallyAutistic humans with advocacy methods & self-care tools for navigating an NT world based on productivism.   My personal interests include # History # Autism # Whales # Jazz # Baseball # Korea # Oasis # Judaism # Dogs # THFC & I’m passionate about pizza, coffee, and Jewish deli.    Check out my various links and work in the About tab

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@theautisticcoach@neurodifferent.me · Mar 08, 2026

Autistic burnout and binge eating are often connected.

But not for the reasons people assume.

It’s not always about “self-control.”

It’s about a nervous system that has been pushed past capacity.

When you’re burned out you interoception gets less pronounced - your regulation goes out the window.

You forget to eat all day.

Then suddenly your body is starving.

Or you’re so dysregulated that food becomes the fastest way to ground your nervous system.

Sugar, salt, texture, fullness.

Instant regulation.

From the outside it looks like a binge.

From the inside it’s often a body trying to survive chronic overwhelm.

A lot of autistic people aren’t struggling with willpower.

We’re struggling with Autistic Burnout.

Yet it's not being seen by those who support us.

Shame ensues.

@autistics@fedigroups.social

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Matthew | The Autistic Coach

@theautisticcoach@neurodifferent.me

I’m Matthew (he/they) and I build neuro-affirming autistic communities by empowering my fellow # ActuallyAutistic humans with advocacy methods & self-care tools for navigating an NT world based on productivism.   My personal interests include # History # Autism # Whales # Jazz # Baseball # Korea # Oasis # Judaism # Dogs # THFC & I’m passionate about pizza, coffee, and Jewish deli.    Check out my various links and work in the About tab

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Matthew | The Autistic Coach

@theautisticcoach@neurodifferent.me

I’m Matthew (he/they) and I build neuro-affirming autistic communities by empowering my fellow # ActuallyAutistic humans with advocacy methods & self-care tools for navigating an NT world based on productivism.   My personal interests include # History # Autism # Whales # Jazz # Baseball # Korea # Oasis # Judaism # Dogs # THFC & I’m passionate about pizza, coffee, and Jewish deli.    Check out my various links and work in the About tab

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@theautisticcoach@neurodifferent.me · Mar 06, 2026

Autistic Burnout doesn’t start when you collapse.

It starts much earlier.

When you say yes, instead of “I can’t.”

When you smile. instead of stim.

When you stay, instead of leave.

Burnout isn’t sudden.

It’s thousands of moments where survival wins over truth.

Until the body can’t lie anymore.

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Matthew | The Autistic Coach

@theautisticcoach@neurodifferent.me

I’m Matthew (he/they) and I build neuro-affirming autistic communities by empowering my fellow # ActuallyAutistic humans with advocacy methods & self-care tools for navigating an NT world based on productivism.   My personal interests include # History # Autism # Whales # Jazz # Baseball # Korea # Oasis # Judaism # Dogs # THFC & I’m passionate about pizza, coffee, and Jewish deli.    Check out my various links and work in the About tab

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Matthew | The Autistic Coach

@theautisticcoach@neurodifferent.me

I’m Matthew (he/they) and I build neuro-affirming autistic communities by empowering my fellow # ActuallyAutistic humans with advocacy methods & self-care tools for navigating an NT world based on productivism.   My personal interests include # History # Autism # Whales # Jazz # Baseball # Korea # Oasis # Judaism # Dogs # THFC & I’m passionate about pizza, coffee, and Jewish deli.    Check out my various links and work in the About tab

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@theautisticcoach@neurodifferent.me · Mar 05, 2026

toxic positivity is a form of internalized ableism

naming difficulties and challenges as disabled people isn't ableist or "negative" or "victim politics"

it's reality and it's OK to give that a voice

It's more than OK - it's essential

we can be positive and love ourselves AND speak our truth

@autistics@fedigroups.social

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Matthew | The Autistic Coach

@theautisticcoach@neurodifferent.me

I’m Matthew (he/they) and I build neuro-affirming autistic communities by empowering my fellow # ActuallyAutistic humans with advocacy methods & self-care tools for navigating an NT world based on productivism.   My personal interests include # History # Autism # Whales # Jazz # Baseball # Korea # Oasis # Judaism # Dogs # THFC & I’m passionate about pizza, coffee, and Jewish deli.    Check out my various links and work in the About tab

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Matthew | The Autistic Coach

@theautisticcoach@neurodifferent.me

I’m Matthew (he/they) and I build neuro-affirming autistic communities by empowering my fellow # ActuallyAutistic humans with advocacy methods & self-care tools for navigating an NT world based on productivism.   My personal interests include # History # Autism # Whales # Jazz # Baseball # Korea # Oasis # Judaism # Dogs # THFC & I’m passionate about pizza, coffee, and Jewish deli.    Check out my various links and work in the About tab

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@theautisticcoach@neurodifferent.me · Feb 18, 2026

Professionalism isn't a neutral term.

It's a cultural aesthetic that is often arbitrary.

Eye contact.

Tone.

Speed.

Energy.

Dress.

When these become moralised, which they almost always are, disability becomes seen as misconduct, deviance, and defiance.

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