ChexMax

I know two people who had full term still born babies. They both absolutely refer to them as babies and as having given birth. I'm only 6 months pregnant and if I lost the pregnancy at this point I would say I lost my son. He's very real and alive to me, he moves and touches me many times an hour, already keeps me up every night. He's a real dude in there. That said, I've had two miscarriages and consider those lost pregnancies, not lost children. I've seen people online say things like "mother of 4, 2 in heaven" though. Having something die inside you can fuck you up forever.

I get the opposite. I’m like kind of high after. Definitely not a good time for me to make any decisions.

Agree, the children’s utility to society isn’t about money. It’s about having doctors and firemen and farmers and artists. Idc how much money you have, if the next generation is smaller, who will be the CNAs in the retirement home where the childless (and others) are spending their pensions?

I totally agree! If you can’t put out a house fire yourself, you shouldn’t have a house! Relying on strangers (the fire dept) to sacrifice their lives is so selfish. Or If I have to cover for your dialysis, don’t have kidneys! Or don’t have a job! Figure out your work life balance! It’s not fair that I have to work hours I agreed to separate from your situation when you’re not also working! The parent is not asking for your sacrifice. If they were, you’d be able to say no as you choose. It’s your boss telling you your hours. If you don’t like your hours, negotiate. Or, since it’s all so easy and binary to you, if this bothers you, just move work places to an office where hours are set. Just get a job where coworker coverage is set in stone in your contract. Certainly that’s as easy a life decision as whether or not to have children.

Weird that you think parents exclusively parent? Parents parent, and then we also give blood, help elderly parents and grandparents, and volunteer. The flexibility you want to give blood should be given to parents, as well. And then if your elderly parent’s ALF calls saying your mom has a fever and they won’t let her stay there until it’s cleared up, you should be given the flexibility to leave work same as a parent. The flexibility afforded parents to prioritize when their kids are sick and it’s illegal to leave them home alone is not the equivalent to volunteering.

I do agree with this (and yes, in the US). I have yet to ever hear about a childless person complain about the “perks"of being a working parent when they need those perks for a different sick family member. It’s only ever been because they think they should get equal priority for a music festival, or regular down time, or spending time with dogs or friends. It’s a bad take, because it’s a false equivalency. In my (albeit limited) experience, if you’re childless, but you ask for the same “perks” to also take care of a family member, you are afforded it.

And I think if childless people were saying my grandmother has a fever and her ALF won’t keep her today because of it, they’d be allowed the exact same remote allowances that a parent in their office is afforded. But if a childless person wants the same number of hours regardless of why, that’s not the same flexibility.

In my experience, people taking care of a family member are given equal flexibility at work. It’s not like Sandra gets to leave early cause her kid is sick, but Matt doesn’t get to leave early when his wife has chemo.

Idk what your job is, so maybe it is wildly taxing on the average afternoon, but taking care of a sick kid sucks. They’re miserable so you’re miserable and it also means you’re either already sick or about to be sick yourself. You can’t bring them to the park or the library or the store or out to eat because then you’re damning other parents to the week you’re having. If you’re a good parent it’s not just sitting the kid on the couch with the TV and some ginger ale. Maybe it gets to be that easy when your kid is like 10. I hope so. I’d pick my old office job 10/10 times when they’re sick, but it’s also not zero consequences. It’s either you’re taking PTO hours or you’re calling in favors, or you’re taking an FMLA day which is unpaid (in my state at least) and it also makes your coworkers resent you, which is a very real consequence.

Yeah, anyone who has to take care of a sick family member should get to work from home that day, whether it’s a child or an elderly grandparent. That’s what the same flexibility means, not getting to work from home the same amount of days as a parent tit for tat.

There’s always money in the banana stand

My science teacher in high school told me all the kinds can fly, it’s just a matter of age. So maybe that’s why it’s only the big ones? Idk i don’t see the little ones flying either but apparently the little ones are the absolute worst to have around

The red ones are sexier. That’s the short answer. The white are more functional, you are correct.

Ooh I’ve never realized that women and black people are both denied access to pain meds for opposite reasons. I mean I knew it was baloney, but I never thought about the fact that it was exactly contradictory.

I think i may be missing the point of your comment? People don’t think smoking is bad for you because of rumors being spread. They think it’s bad because of increased risk of cancer and disease.

Well they are pretty correct when you think about them not as does this person pay their bills, but as will this person make the bank money. That’s why you’re penalized for paying off something early and credit cards help your score but consistently paying rent doesn’t. Credit score just shows they can make interest off you, not that you’re good with money, and in fact I feel like the people who are best with money (saves up and buys things cash) are just penalized with crappy credit scores.

Yeah I feel like i can’t smell a foul old coffee cup better than anyone else, but everyone’s sponges always smell bad to me. I always hate washing a dish at anyone else’s house because the bacteria in their sponge leaves a smell on my hands that doesn’t come off from a normal hand washing or three. Rubber gloves also leave a smell on my hands that will make it difficult for me to sleep that night it smells so strong. Latex ones only, though.

Did you get into the relationship building part? Not trying to convince you to, just curious. I got pretty bored with it because I was neglecting that whole side because it seemed hard. I kept giving Linus what little food i had and he hated it. Also I missed Qi’s side quests completely my first play through