Divas and Dementia

She’s NOT Overmedicated… It’s Dementia. Let’s Talk About Sundowning.

I see the comments. “She looks over medicated.” “She’s not in the mood.” Let me clear something up. Dementia is not a steady line. It shifts with the hour. A morning visit can look light, funny, and conversational. An evening visit during sundowning can look like confusion, agitation, or withdrawal. That’s not medication. That’s the rhythm of dementia. Caregiving requires understanding the timing —…

https://divasanddementia.wordpress.com/2026/03/03/shes-not-overmedicated-its-dementia-lets-talk-about-sundowning/

“What the H€LL She Doing?!” 😳 (She Was Talking About ME!) | Dementia In Real Life

I walked in at 7PM last night and caught Mama working her shift as “Hallway Meddling Management.” We got to her apartment and she said, “What the h€ll she doing?” The “she” was ME. 🤣 Dementia is a full-time job — for them, for family, and for staff. It’s not glamorous. It’s not easy. It’s just real life. If you’re a caregiver running on fumes… this one is for you.

https://divasanddementia.wordpress.com/2026/03/02/what-the-hell-she-doing-%f0%9f%98%b3-she-was-talking-about-me-dementia-in-real-life/

DIVAS Is Plural, Baby. Let’s Break This Down. #DivasAndDementia

Someone said this page isn’t about my mother — that I just “want to be seen.” Let’s clear something up. The page is called DIVAS and Dementia. Divas is plural. That means more than one. Caregiving does not erase the caregiver. We can love our mothers loudly AND exist boldly. Both things can be true. If you’re a caregiver who has ever been judged, misunderstood, or told you’re “doing too much” — this video…

https://divasanddementia.wordpress.com/2026/02/28/divas-is-plural-baby-lets-break-this-down-divasanddementia/

Caregiver Sacrifices No One Talks About (Even After Signing a Film Deal) #dementia

I just returned from Los Angeles after signing my movie distribution deal and travel show agreement — major career milestones. But before I unpacked a single suitcase, I went straight from the airport to see my mother in memory care. People assume that when your parent lives in a facility, you’re “free.” They think the sacrifices stop. They don’t. I would love to relocate to Los Angeles…

https://divasanddementia.wordpress.com/2026/02/28/caregiver-sacrifices-no-one-talks-about-even-after-signing-a-film-deal-dementia/

God Knew I Needed This Sign! #DementiaDaughter

THIS. IS. CRAZY! 👀 Movie deal Travel show deal I’m in LA locking in distribution… missing my mother’s presence. And at the EXACT moment I’m speaking her name out loud — I look up and see it on a huge sign. You tell me what that is. I call it confirmation. Caregivers… don’t stop dreaming. Your loved one would want you to LIVE too.

https://divasanddementia.wordpress.com/2026/02/22/god-knew-i-needed-this-sign-dementiadaughter/

Memory Care Is NOT Abandonment | A Message for Dementia Daughters Battling Guilt

This is for every dementia daughter who whispers, “I wish my parent could live in memory care… but the guilt would eat me alive.” Let me tell you something. Just because your parent doesn’t live with you doesn’t mean you’re not caring for them. #OnThisDay I grabbed Mama IHOP, returned her clean clothes after washing them, and finished getting her dressed after she gave staff a hard time.

https://divasanddementia.wordpress.com/2026/02/21/memory-care-is-not-abandonment-a-message-for-dementia-daughters-battling-guilt/

Guy On My Job Presidents Day Edition #dementia

These brain exercises are just that…not political, not woke. However, B.O. will always and forever be my favorite! Mama always gets it right. from Divas and Dementia

https://divasanddementia.wordpress.com/2026/02/17/guy-on-my-job-presidents-day-edition-dementia/

Tucking Mama In After a Baby Shower | Dementia Daughter Life

After leaving a baby shower, I stopped by to tuck my mom in for the night—and decided to go LIVE. This wasn’t planned. This was real life. In this replay, I chat with our community, check on Mama, tender moment that so many caregivers understand. Dementia doesn’t pause for celebrations, events, or full days—but love doesn’t either. These moments matter.

https://divasanddementia.wordpress.com/2026/02/15/tucking-mama-in-after-a-baby-shower-dementia-daughter-life/

A Valentine’s Day Reminder 💕 Dementia Edition

Happy Valentine’s Day from me & Mama. This is your reminder to hold the ones you love a little closer today. 💕 #2025 Moments like these matter — especially when time and memory aren’t promised. If this touched your heart, you’re not alone. We love y’all. Like this video if you’re holding someone close today. Comment who you’re spending Valentine’s Day with. Subscribe for real-life moments, love, and dementia awareness.…

https://divasanddementia.wordpress.com/2026/02/15/a-valentines-day-reminder-%f0%9f%92%95-dementia-edition/

This LIVE was about more than dementia—and that matters. THANK YALL!!! 💜

This LIVE was about more than dementia—and that matters. We talked fashion. We talked fits. We laughed. We even called my cousin on the phone. I’m grateful for a community that allows space for joy, lightness, and normal life—not just the hard parts. Dementia is part of my story, but it’s not the only thing that gets to exist here.

https://divasanddementia.wordpress.com/2026/02/14/this-live-was-about-more-than-dementia-and-that-matters-thank-yall-%f0%9f%92%9c/

Why Dementia Can Become Combative (And Why Home Care Isn’t Always Safe)

Combative behavior is one of the biggest reasons it’s not safe to keep someone at home. Not because families don’t love enough. Not because they gave up. But because safety matters — for them and the CAREGIVERS! I’ve lived this. My mom fights sometimes. And there’s NOTHING anyone can do about it. Dementia looks different on everybody. What works for one family can be dangerous for another. It…

https://divasanddementia.wordpress.com/2026/02/14/why-dementia-can-become-combative-and-why-home-care-isnt-always-safe/

Laughter, Anxiety, Dementia & Style | A Caregiver LIVE Replay 💜

This LIVE replay is a little bit of everything—because caregiving life is exactly that. We talk about fashion and personal joy, the early signs of dementia and why I don’t just take Mama home, and the a funny moment with my mom. I also share how I manage anxiety, what helps me find calm in the chaos, and why community matters so much for caregivers—including conversations around gated support communities…

https://divasanddementia.wordpress.com/2026/02/13/laughter-anxiety-dementia-style-a-caregiver-live-replay-%f0%9f%92%9c/

UNPOPULAR OPINION: Ego, Money & the Judgment Around Dementia Care

Before the camera came on, Pastor Sherry and I had a very honest conversation about the criticism families receive when a loved one with dementia lives in a facility. A lot of people love to judge. Some say they could “do it better.” Some won’t admit that money plays a role. Some people don’t want to let go of that Social Security check.

https://divasanddementia.wordpress.com/2026/02/12/unpopular-opinion-ego-money-the-judgment-around-dementia-care/

LIVE REPLAY: Mama, Dementia & Quality Time With You 💜

This LIVE wasn’t planned or polished. It was just me, my mama—who lives with dementia—and you. 🛒 AMAZON LINKS 🛒 Crystal’s Green Jumpsuit: Mama’s Red Two Piece Set: Calm Powder: Calm Gummies: Disclosure: As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases. Quality time looks different on this journey. Some days it’s talking. Some days it’s just sitting together.

https://divasanddementia.wordpress.com/2026/02/12/live-replay-mama-dementia-quality-time-with-you-%f0%9f%92%9c/

A Dementia Daughter’s TLC: Even With A Podiatrist 💜

When my mama’s foot seemed to be bothering her, I did what daughters do — gave her some TLC. 💜 Before the peanut gallery jumps in, yes, the facility has a podiatrist who comes in regularly. But medical care doesn’t replace love, comfort, and a daughter’s touch. Dementia caregiving is layered. It’s not just appointments and protocols — it’s presence.

https://divasanddementia.wordpress.com/2026/02/11/a-dementia-daughters-tlc-even-with-a-podiatrist-%f0%9f%92%9c/

Mama Said My Name On Live Again 💜 DEMENTIA TRUTHS!

This live replay gets personal. After weeks of not hearing it, Mama said my name again—and if you’re a dementia caregiver, you already know how much that moment means. 💜 In this video, I share a tender caregiving moment as I soak Mama’s feet, and talk honestly about life with dementia. We get into real conversations around dementia symptoms, memory care, and eating healthy as a caregiver.

https://divasanddementia.wordpress.com/2026/02/11/mama-said-my-name-on-live-again-%f0%9f%92%9c-dementia-truths/

Dementia Energy Is Real… And It’s Unmatched

She’s 80, living with dementia… and has MORE energy than me. I’m tired. She’s not. And this is why I’m glad I wore sneakers. This is real life as a dementia daughter—constant redirection, endless movement, and learning to keep up even when your body is done. If you’re a caregiver, you already know… the energy is unmatched. If this looks familiar, you’re not alone.

https://divasanddementia.wordpress.com/2026/02/11/dementia-energy-is-real-and-its-unmatched/

No, UTIs Do NOT Cause Dementia — Let’s Stop the Misinformation

I want to clear something up because it was said on LIVE and it matters. UTIs do NOT cause dementia. That’s simply not true. What can happen—especially in older adults—is a UTI can trigger delirium. That looks like sudden confusion, agitation, sleepiness, or behavior changes. And yes, it can be alarming. But delirium is temporary. Once the infection is treated, those symptoms often improve.

https://divasanddementia.wordpress.com/2026/02/11/no-utis-do-not-cause-dementia-lets-stop-the-misinformation/

A Rare Hug & Rare I LOVE YOU FROM MY MOM w/Dementia! 💜

This LIVE replay starts after lunch—Mama enjoying her dessert and us spending quality time together. I got a hug and an I LOVE YOU! As the LIVE went on, people kept asking “What’s wrong with her?” because her eyes were closed at times. Let me be clear: nothing was wrong. My mom is 80 years old and living with dementia.

https://divasanddementia.wordpress.com/2026/02/10/a-rare-hug-rare-i-love-you-from-my-mom-w-dementia-%f0%9f%92%9c/

She Gives Me The BIZNESSSS! 🤣 #dementia Once I got her settled, I got a good belly laugh! 🤣🤣 This is only a short clip of the visit, I will sleep good tonight! from Divas and Dementia https://divasanddementia.wordpress.com/2026/02/09/she-gives-me-the-biznessss-%f0%9f%a4%a3-dementia/

Tucking Mama In 💜 | Dementia Care, Comfort, Love Mama Plays Possum! Will She Stay in Bed? I tucked Mama in… Now the real question is—will she stay there once I leave? 😅 If you know, you know. Dementia caregiving is always a guessing game. Subscribe for real, unfiltered moments from our dementia journey 💜 #DementiaCare #CaregiverLife #MamaMoments #MemoryCare #DementiaAwareness #CaregiverHumor #RealLifeCaregiving #Shorts from Divas and Dementia https://divasanddementia.wordpress.com/2026/02/02/tucking-mama-in-%f0%9f%92%9c-dementia-care-comfort-love/

Embarrassing Me in Front of My Lil Friends 😭 Dementia Moments Mama got a little sassy on live and for a second… it felt like old times. Same attitude. Same embarrassment. Just a different season. 💜 Dementia doesn’t erase personality—and whew, hers is still loud. If you love real, unfiltered dementia moments, tap subscribe 💜 #DementiaCare #CaregiverLife #DementiaMoments #MamaSass #RealLifeCaregiving #DivasAndDementia #CaregiverHumor #Shorts from Divas and Dementia https://divasanddementia.wordpress.com/2026/02/02/embarrassing-me-in-front-of-my-lil-friends-%f0%9f%98%ad-dementia-moments/

Being Present and Advocating Is Non-Negotiable | Dementia Care Reality Check Facility life isn’t perfect—and anyone who’s living this dementia journey knows that firsthand. In this video, my husband and I stop by to visit my mom and address a personal issue with staff. This is what advocacy really looks like. Not complaining. Not bashing. Just being present, available, and willing to speak up when something doesn’t feel right. I’m incredibly grateful for a husband who… https://divasanddementia.wordpress.com/2026/01/29/being-present-and-advocating-is-non-negotiable-dementia-care-reality-check/

Mama Said What She Said 😌 | Dementia Can’t Touch THAT Attitude 🤣 Every now and then, I get a glimpse of my Mama before dementia. The tough cookie. The strict program. Mama was nothing nice—and on this day she got a little sassy! 🤣 These moments mean everything. If you love real moments like this, hit subscribe and stay with us! 💜 #DementiaCare #CaregiverLife #BeforeDementia #MamaEnergy #SassyMama #DementiaAwareness #CaregiverContent #RealLifeMoments #Shorts from Divas… https://divasanddementia.wordpress.com/2026/01/29/mama-said-what-she-said-%f0%9f%98%8c-dementia-cant-touch-that-attitude-%f0%9f%a4%a3/