DigitalDilemma

On the clock means, when you are working.

They likely have a legal duty of care over you whilst you are working. It sounds like they’re doing the right thing, not just legally, but for your own interests.

20 years old, self employed manual worker who broke his leg whilst on a night out drinking. The only night’s drinking I’d ever been on before or since. How quickly I ended up without any money and unable to pay rent was a real eye opener. The bank I’d used all my life denied me a very small loan, I had no friends I felt I could ask for money. Fortunately I live in a country where health care is free, and my sole client kept a place open for me to step back into. I managed to stay out of serious debt and kept a roof over my head, but skipped a lot of meals and went without heating for a few months. I’ve never forgotten the feeling of helplessness and that has been a driver for a lot of my life’s spending and saving habits.

Our shower drains into the grey water tank a I’ve done the maths! Shower water /is/ normally collected in grey water systems, but piss would be so diluted as to be a negligable contaminant. A shower uses roughly 70 litres of water. An average human bladder voiding is 400ml, so that works out at 0.57% piss in the grey water collected in a single shower. Negligable - but for fruit trees, a fertiliser.

And they’re always eager to help out other people too.

In any country, I would think. Even where grey water systems are deployed for water re-use, shower water /is/ normally collected, but piss would be so diluted as to be a negligable contaminant. A shower uses roughly 70 litres of water. An average human bladder voiding is 400ml, so that works out at 0.57% piss in the grey water collected in a single shower. Negligable. Piss away. Source -Dr. I P Freely.

A lot depends on where you are. Here in the UK (and most of Europe) there are very strong precedents about preparation time, including “pre-work meetings”, putting on PPE, tidying up, putting away. It’s all work. Unless you agree to do more (and are subsequently paid for that time, or exchange for time off in lieu), you don’t have to be on site before or after your contracted hours. If you’re in the USA, I have no idea, other than you guys seem to have little protection. At a non-legal, human perspective - she likely knows she’s giving your contradictory orders. That sounds like someone trying to make your life difficult and hoping you’ll quit. I’d talk to her manager if you can, or the boss if that’s feasible.

I’d rather see all my dogs, cats and horses again.

Not just America - all Western countries did. We made it expensive to manufacture goods due to labour costs and well-meaning but crippling environmental protections and couldn’t compete on price.

bleddy 'ell

People change, and with bigotry, they’ve often been changed by others. He may not always have been like that, so it’s okay to like someone once and not at other times. Best advice I can give is listen to your inner moral compass. If something sounds wrong, it probably is.

(very) Late diagnosed autistic guy here. Thank you for writing that. One of the revealing things about realising this is what I am is looking back at a long life and realising a lot of people thought of me as rude, or that I was being deliberately awkward. I’ve certainly lost one job because of it, lived a life that’s largely friendless (IRL anyway) and doubtless missed a thousand opportunities through not being aware of them. There’s also an element of cause and effect - sometimes you know pretty quickly that someone’s not going to warm to you, so you just shut them out mentally. It’s expensive for me to make the effort to be normal and as I’ve got older I’m less willing to waste this time and energy. I see it as very positive that so many people are aware of neurodiversity now, especially younger generations, and their first thought when someone behaves differently isn’t always that they’re deliberately being an assehole. Sometimes they are, of course, especially those with particularly bigoted views, but not always.

My point is that you don’t know the actual truth. Nor do I. We can’t. Bots and paid agents are not a new technique - in ancient times, countries would send spies undercover into enemy territory to sow discord. To rabble rouse and change public opinion. It’s the same now, just the tools have changed. No news source is entirely unbiased, even word of mouth is influenced. The only way you can determine the truth is by seeing it with your own, naked eyes. And even then, your own personal bias can change the context. Reddit is a platform where its’ easy to get the ears of a lot of people, so it’s a big target. It’s not Reddit’s fault, and Lemmy would suffer exactly the same if we had the numbers they do. What is different now on the world stage, mostly thanks to Trump, is that there’s no longer even any pretence to truth. The most powerful person in the world lies constantly, and his example proves that works. No shame, no integrity, no honesty - just lies and crude manipulation.

“Truth is the first casualty of war”

Yes.

IKR? I was a heavy smoker for 15 years (40+/day). Giving that up was really hard, both emotionally and physically (they don’t warn you about the physical withdrawal effects - sweats, hyperactivity, insomnia, nausea etc) and habit breaking is a bastard. But at least with that you can stop. It’s binary, you’re either not a smoker or you are. I’ve found managing diet to be harder than that. I think that’s easier than not over eating because you have to eat and psychologically, I’ve found that harder. Every meal feels like a little failure. I used mounjaro this year which has helped lose 10kg, but even that’s levelled off. Am also still a fat ass.

“Be careful whose advice you buy, but, be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it’s worth.”

True that. We’ve just got a longer list of mistakes.