Today's hopeful thing:
- K2 wrote their name in the sand.
(They are doing so many things requiring fine motor skills this week - and not because we make them but because they want to! These things are very hard for them, but they try.)
#HopefulThings
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Jules
@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
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autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
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@eightfiftythree when the "accomodations" part started and my esteemed colleague went, "this student wants to negotiate these accommodations," I immediately said "just for the record, they don't want to negotiate, they request we accomodate their needs, as is their right".
Maybe I'll just follow up with "and that's not to give them an advantage," the next time.
It's so tiring. Yes, this is work. But we need those students and they can do great work!
@irina
Maybe I'll just follow up with "and that's not to give them an advantage," the next time.
It's so tiring. Yes, this is work. But we need those students and they can do great work!
@irina
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Jules
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autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
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@irina I say it every three months, literally every time the committee meets, and still they make this assumption.
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@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
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5d ago
Examinations committee. At some point I'll need to make a "disability accomodations aim to level the playing field, they are not a favor or an advantage" and just tap it.
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@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
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5d ago
Wisdom from a colleague: "[name] always rolls his eyes when I say these words, 'solidarity', 'feminism'. And then I tell him, '[name], that's just what we call it when we have each other's backs and people of all genders have the same opportunities', and he can't say anything against that"
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@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
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5d ago
Today's hopeful thing:
- got good, helpful input on how to approach a certain kind of difficult conversation and may be better able to handle them in the future
#HopefulThings
- got good, helpful input on how to approach a certain kind of difficult conversation and may be better able to handle them in the future
#HopefulThings
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@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
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Apr 11, 2026
Today's hopeful thing:
- seeing that @Fuchskind's "Kekse statt Nazis" ("Cookies instead of Nazis") was at protests in four different cities. Maybe there were even more!
If the only thing these protests do is bring us together, it's still a lot.
#HopefulThings
- seeing that @Fuchskind's "Kekse statt Nazis" ("Cookies instead of Nazis") was at protests in four different cities. Maybe there were even more!
If the only thing these protests do is bring us together, it's still a lot.
#HopefulThings
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Jules
@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
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Apr 11, 2026
@irina the almost-sacrifice of Isaac makes me super uncomfortable too. It's just unimaginable as a parent.
(It makes sense as a reading though!)
(It makes sense as a reading though!)
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autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
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Apr 11, 2026
That's one way of experiencing God: in a power fantasy. Moses himself survived a similar massacre; now God uses Their power to free slaves and lead them to freedom. While taking care no animal dies needlessly by advising families to pool resources. It's drastic, but it also shows Their priorities.
Jesus also survives a similar massacre. And in the end, his story shows a different way of experiencing God.
(3/n)
#MaybeASermon
Jesus also survives a similar massacre. And in the end, his story shows a different way of experiencing God.
(3/n)
#MaybeASermon
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Jules
@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
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Apr 11, 2026
As a human who washes his friends' feet, feeds the hungry, heals the sick. Who brings a different freedom in a different way, by self-sacrifice, but has similar priorities.
We read both stories together because both (and countless other) ways of experiencing God are valid and real and needed.
(4/n, n=4)
#MaybeASermon
We read both stories together because both (and countless other) ways of experiencing God are valid and real and needed.
(4/n, n=4)
#MaybeASermon
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Jules
@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
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Apr 11, 2026
Religion, Christianity
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So. The passage, which the acquaintance found only archaic and disturbing (slaughtering animals! Painting frames with blood! Massacring the firstborn!), feels very relevant on multiple levels! First, of course, because it's the origin of Pesach, which Jesus and his friends were celebrating: being freed and led away from slavery.
But there are other things in there as well. Egypt's firstborn are killed and the Israelites get out of their captivity.
(2/n)
#MaybeASermon
But there are other things in there as well. Egypt's firstborn are killed and the Israelites get out of their captivity.
(2/n)
#MaybeASermon
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Jules
@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
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Apr 11, 2026
One of our Maundy Thursday* readings is Exodus 12** After the service, one acquaintance remarked she had no idea what was up with that. I thought about it and had some answers, which I'll share because I can 🙃
*yes, I am still working through my Holy Week and Easter thoughts. It's okay! Liturgically, it's not Ordinary Time until after Pentecost!
**https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Exodus%2012&version=NIV
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*yes, I am still working through my Holy Week and Easter thoughts. It's okay! Liturgically, it's not Ordinary Time until after Pentecost!
**https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Exodus%2012&version=NIV
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Jules
@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
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Apr 04, 2026
@sarah_ist_muede wenn ja, dann mehr davon!!!
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Jules
@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
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Mar 27, 2026
@irina I am looking forward to it!
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@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
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Mar 27, 2026
@irina thank you! I have acquired the chocolate and can post it on Monday 🙂
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@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
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Mar 27, 2026
@irina I'll get you some right away, I am on the way to the station now!
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Jules
@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
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Mar 27, 2026
@irina would you like Marabou Mint chocolate? A shop at the railway station has it and I thought of you!
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Jules
@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
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Mar 23, 2026
@alan yes!!!
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Jules
@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
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Mar 22, 2026
@juliainfinland oh yes, that's a good example too! There's a male trainee at my kids' daycare and that also was an event.
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Jules
@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
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Mar 21, 2026
One thing the recent sexism discussion made clear to me: many people, when asked whether they witnessed sexism, talk about isolated sexist *remarks* they witnessed or didn't witness: catcalling, fuckability scoring, demeaning commentary about body weight.
But sexism is *structural*, and witnessing sexism also means witnessing mansplaining, almost exclusively male engineering classes or upper management ranks, gendered clothing and toys for toddlers, parenting advice for "moms", and much more.
But sexism is *structural*, and witnessing sexism also means witnessing mansplaining, almost exclusively male engineering classes or upper management ranks, gendered clothing and toys for toddlers, parenting advice for "moms", and much more.
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Jules
@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
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Mar 09, 2026
@ossobuffo yes, that's a great book!
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Jules
@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
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Mar 09, 2026
This* article by @adapalmer is really neat and illustrates something I've thought for a while: the reading protocols for SFF and history are quite similar!
My favorite quote: "A struggling space colony may be saved by rugged space marines, dutiful hereditary lords, the teamwork of the crew, or one special little boy; each option makes a claim about where human power lies, while having the space colony perish despite all efforts makes a claim about human powerlessness."
*https://strangehorizons.com/wordpress/non-fiction/why-all-science-fiction-and-fantasy-writers-are-historians/
My favorite quote: "A struggling space colony may be saved by rugged space marines, dutiful hereditary lords, the teamwork of the crew, or one special little boy; each option makes a claim about where human power lies, while having the space colony perish despite all efforts makes a claim about human powerlessness."
*https://strangehorizons.com/wordpress/non-fiction/why-all-science-fiction-and-fantasy-writers-are-historians/
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Jules
@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
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Mar 07, 2026
@astronomerritt thank you! My knees haven't been a problem so far, my tricky joints are my wrists and the right hip 🫤 I can move okay, it's just not pain-free.
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Jules
@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
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Mar 07, 2026
I wrenched my knee somehow and it still hurts. Given that my average daily walking distance is at least something like 10 km, that is not good 😑
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Jules
@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
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Mar 07, 2026
@WeirdWriter yes! That really hit him where he felt it. He totally didn't expect anyone there to be both upstanding and tech savvy. That part was epic, I cheered inwardly the whole time.
(And knew in my bones how draining it would be.)
(And knew in my bones how draining it would be.)
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Jules
@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
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@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
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Mar 06, 2026
Today's hopeful thing:
- "The Bookstore Hope" by @WeirdWriter: https://sightlessscribbles.com/posts/the-bookstore-hope/
The fight is tiring, but worth it; and if we need to rest, others will take over.
(The community and love is great, but I have to admit I also am SO here for an epic nerdy takedown 😍)
#HopefulThings
- "The Bookstore Hope" by @WeirdWriter: https://sightlessscribbles.com/posts/the-bookstore-hope/
The fight is tiring, but worth it; and if we need to rest, others will take over.
(The community and love is great, but I have to admit I also am SO here for an epic nerdy takedown 😍)
#HopefulThings
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Jules
@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
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Mar 06, 2026
@amalia12 yes, I've ruled out surgery too. It's just not the right time for something needing recovery now. I'm fine with wearing a binder.
(And given my family's history with breast cancer... who knows 🫤)
HRT is more interesting but also very scary. I've gone through hormonal changes (and soon there'll be another) and it's not easy!
(And given my family's history with breast cancer... who knows 🫤)
HRT is more interesting but also very scary. I've gone through hormonal changes (and soon there'll be another) and it's not easy!
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Jules
@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
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@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
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Mar 06, 2026
@amalia12 somehow it makes me both want to physically transition more and less. If one only knew what hormones do to your body beforehand.
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Jules
@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
rheinhessen.social
@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
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Mar 06, 2026
I finally watched this* clip which has been going around, a beautiful duet with a past self. It's lovely.
But man does it give me complicated gender expression feelings. I can't really express them yet but they're definitely there.
#AgenderFeels
*https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ojSmc7s1rgU
But man does it give me complicated gender expression feelings. I can't really express them yet but they're definitely there.
#AgenderFeels
*https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ojSmc7s1rgU
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@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
rheinhessen.social
@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
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Mar 04, 2026
Today's hopeful thing:
- strangers being helpful in little ways, just making each other's lives easier: making a grumpy baby laugh, pointing out the correct bus stop, putting on a respirator.
#HopefulThings
- strangers being helpful in little ways, just making each other's lives easier: making a grumpy baby laugh, pointing out the correct bus stop, putting on a respirator.
#HopefulThings
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Jules
@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
rheinhessen.social
@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
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Dec 11, 2025
Yet the traditions stay; in fact, like most traditions, they became burdened with more expectations after they'd lost most of their religious meaning.
They no longer fit society's needs well. Or maybe they do, the time is just not right. Maybe January would be a better time. Or August, that's a quiet month in many countries!
If holidays don't fit needs anymore, they usually change, and it'll be interesting to see how that goes.
(3/n)
They no longer fit society's needs well. Or maybe they do, the time is just not right. Maybe January would be a better time. Or August, that's a quiet month in many countries!
If holidays don't fit needs anymore, they usually change, and it'll be interesting to see how that goes.
(3/n)
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@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
rheinhessen.social
@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
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Dec 11, 2025
Christmas
Sensitive
A perfect time for fasting and resting and having a celebration with many lights, then, Christmas in mid-winter.
It's different now, of course. Most people don't work in agriculture any more, and artificial lighting and heating mean that most work doesn't have to cease. In many professions, December is, on the contrary, one of the busiest months.
A quiet month of fasting makes no sense now. A festival of lights might still, but doesn't feel that urgent anymore.
(2/n)
It's different now, of course. Most people don't work in agriculture any more, and artificial lighting and heating mean that most work doesn't have to cease. In many professions, December is, on the contrary, one of the busiest months.
A quiet month of fasting makes no sense now. A festival of lights might still, but doesn't feel that urgent anymore.
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Jules
@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
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@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
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Dec 11, 2025
Let December stay hectic and celebrate the quiet time Between The Years more? Let Christmas become a niche religious thing, maybe like Corpus Christi? Christmas month with decorations like scary month leading up to Halloween in October? Something else entirely? Have a date in August as Going Home And Fixing Computers Day but Christmas parties in December?
I do hope we'll find good ways, ways that suit our modern needs.
(4/n, n=4)
I do hope we'll find good ways, ways that suit our modern needs.
(4/n, n=4)
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@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students). likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
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@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
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Dec 11, 2025
When people started to celebrate Christmas in December, that was a quiet time.
Most people worked in agriculture, and the agricultural year was over by then: all crops brought in, all fields prepared, trees cut, livestock that couldn't be brought through the winter slaughtered.
People relied on daylight for many crafts, and the days were short, which meant a time of rest for them too. No construction work, no military campaigns, very little travel.
(1/n)
Most people worked in agriculture, and the agricultural year was over by then: all crops brought in, all fields prepared, trees cut, livestock that couldn't be brought through the winter slaughtered.
People relied on daylight for many crafts, and the days were short, which meant a time of rest for them too. No construction work, no military campaigns, very little travel.
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