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I really encourage anyone putting together a queer event to really think about the language they use to advertise. FLINTA and ABCD events make me wary. When you welcome anyone but cis men, you are ens
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If you really me "no men," then just say it. "no men: cis or trans, nor non-binary people who present masc." I'd rather know the space is hostile before I decide to go. FLINTA groups often permit my p
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Post-toot note: The subject is complicated, and everyone's experiences are different. But I go to so many events where I am the only transmasc person, or the only he/they, and I understand why. I'm ne
Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*
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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*
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Feb 12, 2026
Post-post-toot note, lol. I think why it bothers me so much is that prior to coming out, it was women's spaces that did the most damage in terms of ostracizing me. The pain of not fitting in to gendered spaces for the gender that I was supposed to be caused some deep suffering that took many years of therapy and eventually coming out to (mostly) resolve. So it sucks as a transmasc person to walk into spaces ostensibly made to include my gender and once again find the same rejection. 😮💨
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