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Cai

@Cai@gamepad.club
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Formerly @Cai@lgbtqia.space before the Great Geoblocking(tm)

they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean

Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling.

Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖

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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*

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@Cai@gamepad.club · Mar 06, 2026
@miriamrobern@dice.camp Oh noooo! Hoping for a quick recovery from illness so your body can focus on bigger recovery things!
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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*

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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*

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@Cai@gamepad.club · Mar 04, 2026
Been cooking on a scene from Mother of Flies. First time really trying for a landscape, so we'll see how it goes :eeveecoffee: So far I'm happy with how the stones are coming and am a little afraid to touch anything else
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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*

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@Cai@gamepad.club · Mar 01, 2026
@zem@sunny.garden Welcome! What Daisy said: queer horror fans unite! :blobcatghost:
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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*

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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*

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@Cai@gamepad.club · Feb 28, 2026

Fuck.

https://www.france24.com/en/asia-pacific/20260228-us-israeli-strike-on-iranian-school-kills-more-than-50-students-state-media-says

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FINE I'LL DO IT MYSELF. *Starts shopping for Spell Book making supplies*
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OPEN ALL THE BOOK MAKING SUPPLY TABS!
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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*

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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*

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@Cai@gamepad.club · Feb 26, 2026
@bearmine@gamepad.club YEEESSSS JOIN THE BOOK BINDING TRAIN
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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*

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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*

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@Cai@gamepad.club · Feb 26, 2026
Wild to be going through very parallel forms of stress now a days, but with the knowledge that once we get a foothold, our lives will in fact be significantly improved. Someday we might be able to do things like go on a vacation or...dare I hope: retire
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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*

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@Cai@gamepad.club · Feb 25, 2026
@tlapka@ak.kawen.space Happy birthday, fren! 😊🎉🎂
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What some people might find annoying (fountain pens running out of ink much faster than more modern pens) I find fun and motivating. I get to chose a new ink, which is a whole fun of its own.
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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*

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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*

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@Cai@gamepad.club · Feb 25, 2026
@bearmine@gamepad.club 💯
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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*

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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*

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@Cai@gamepad.club · Feb 24, 2026

It is wildly difficult to explain how student debt prevents Americans from getting an education when the person you're talking to is from a country without trillions of dollars in student debt

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Okay I’m going to ask for help, which is rare for me and I should do that more often. I’ve had this idea knocking around in my head forever. I want to get a nice notebook/journal and turn it into a “s
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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*

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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*

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@Cai@gamepad.club · Feb 24, 2026
@bearmine@gamepad.club The rune book my mom gave me, alongside her old set of runes, is The Book of Runes by Blum. I never felt particularly drawn to his interpretations overall, but it was informative and pretty no nonsense. It's straightforward and easy to use
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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*

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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*

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@Cai@gamepad.club · Feb 20, 2026
Ah, nothing like a night riddled with self-doubt. Hello, fear of failure. It's been a while :eeveecoffee:
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I have lived in the US for 23 years. This week I used the word "keener" at a meeting and someone interrupted me to ask what that was. I explained it's a Canadian word for someone who's just earnestly
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Growing up, I was always called "a keener." For good or bad it was part of my identity. Maybe people here have persistently misunderstood me as ambitious when actually I just really, really, really li
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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*

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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*

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@Cai@gamepad.club · Feb 19, 2026
@cyberlyra@hachyderm.io I think an important nuance to note is that most Americans I've known who fit this description, myself included, are people who can't afford to learn the way they want. Squished between two to three jobs and raising children or supporting oneself alone sucks the life, time, and joy there would otherwise be for that spark of curiosity. I've known many Americans who yearn to be life-long students but cannot escape the pressure of surviving long enough to do so. It's miserable.
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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*

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@Cai@gamepad.club · Feb 18, 2026
I've been having a nice time puttering about in Project Gorgon. Something kind of charming to lose connection from the server and then have to wait a few minutes because of emergency maintenance 😅 Probably because I'm not being hounded to spend money every other second. Only vibes.
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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*

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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*

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@Cai@gamepad.club · Feb 18, 2026

Went through Centraal at an off time and felt like I'd prematurely discovered the boss battle arena

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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*

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@Cai@gamepad.club · Feb 16, 2026
@nora@blob.love 😭 😭
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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*

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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*

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@Cai@gamepad.club · Feb 14, 2026

Shudder has added a bunch of Chinese horror to celebrate the New Year, and I am very here for it 🎉

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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*

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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*

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@Cai@gamepad.club · Feb 13, 2026

I have a pal who is really feeling exhaustion and overwhelm about her Ring camera, which has brought her incredibly security for her home but she is horrified it is going to be used by Amazon and ICE.

Do we know, Fedifriends, if there are options that would give her that security without feeding its data to a corporation?

#fediHelp #ringCamera #lookingForAdvice

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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*

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@Cai@gamepad.club · Feb 13, 2026
@LevelUp@corteximplant.com I would very much like to fly over there and throttle your employer. :headache_kirk:
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@Cai@gamepad.club Safe spaces are complicated. I feel like you have to accept everyone and police everyone. I have seem bad actors and good actors of every type. Cis men can be great "allies" and tran
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@Cai@gamepad.club Also what about transfem pre transition? What you describe also ostriches them at a point where they probably need the most support. Sorry to hear you're dealing with they. If you ev
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@bearmine@gamepad.club This is the great argument for allowing spaces to welcome "allies," as well. Especially in situations like work or school when it is unsafe for a person to be out, it is incredi
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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*

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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*

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@Cai@gamepad.club · Feb 12, 2026
@bearmine@gamepad.club I understand the need for specific spaces, and encourage people to create and nurture them. But I think most organizers slap events together with no critical thought about what kind of spaces they're creating. But they use labels that carry a great deal of implication. In the States it's common to see "queer," events. That's it. If you're queer, you're welcome. Here it's all FLINTA and ABCD, and the variation between how people use those labels is so vast it makes them almost moot.
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Post-post-toot note, lol. I think why it bothers me so much is that prior to coming out, it was women's spaces that did the most damage in terms of ostracizing me. The pain of not fitting in to gender
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Formerly @ Cai before the Great Geoblocking(tm) they/them, he/him; transmasc non-binary bean Book nerd, avid gamer, papercrafter, lover of sci-fi, and a helicopter parent to two cats. Writing and sending snail mail is a favored pastime, as is creative journaling. Living in the NL to avoid the shitstorm in the US and studying Sign Language Linguistics 💖 *-*-*-*

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@Cai@gamepad.club · Feb 12, 2026
@bearmine@gamepad.club This is the great argument for allowing spaces to welcome "allies," as well. Especially in situations like work or school when it is unsafe for a person to be out, it is incredibly important to have a way for them to engage with their community and connect with others. In my case, attending spaces open to allies was largely how I realized I wasn't just an ally but a member of the community 😅
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I really encourage anyone putting together a queer event to really think about the language they use to advertise. FLINTA and ABCD events make me wary. When you welcome anyone but cis men, you are ens
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If you really me "no men," then just say it. "no men: cis or trans, nor non-binary people who present masc." I'd rather know the space is hostile before I decide to go. FLINTA groups often permit my p
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Post-toot note: The subject is complicated, and everyone's experiences are different. But I go to so many events where I am the only transmasc person, or the only he/they, and I understand why. I'm ne
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@Cai@gamepad.club · Feb 12, 2026
Post-post-toot note, lol. I think why it bothers me so much is that prior to coming out, it was women's spaces that did the most damage in terms of ostracizing me. The pain of not fitting in to gendered spaces for the gender that I was supposed to be caused some deep suffering that took many years of therapy and eventually coming out to (mostly) resolve. So it sucks as a transmasc person to walk into spaces ostensibly made to include my gender and once again find the same rejection. 😮‍💨
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I really encourage anyone putting together a queer event to really think about the language they use to advertise. FLINTA and ABCD events make me wary. When you welcome anyone but cis men, you are ens
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If you really me "no men," then just say it. "no men: cis or trans, nor non-binary people who present masc." I'd rather know the space is hostile before I decide to go. FLINTA groups often permit my p
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@Cai@gamepad.club · Feb 12, 2026
Post-toot note: The subject is complicated, and everyone's experiences are different. But I go to so many events where I am the only transmasc person, or the only he/they, and I understand why. I'm never welcome as who I am: I have to justify to people that I belong there, that I'm not a threat, that I can in good faith. And that's a lot of work when you're already lacking community and going to those places for support. So just. Food for thought, I guess.
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I really encourage anyone putting together a queer event to really think about the language they use to advertise. FLINTA and ABCD events make me wary. When you welcome anyone but cis men, you are ens
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@Cai@gamepad.club · Feb 12, 2026
If you really me "no men," then just say it. "no men: cis or trans, nor non-binary people who present masc." I'd rather know the space is hostile before I decide to go. FLINTA groups often permit my presence by lumping my gender in with women. Non-binary just means "woman." And women's events that sort of tack on trans men and non-binary people as an afterthought aren't safe spaces for either of those categories, not really. So. If you ARE making a safe space, please just consider these things.
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@Cai@gamepad.club · Feb 12, 2026
I really encourage anyone putting together a queer event to really think about the language they use to advertise. FLINTA and ABCD events make me wary. When you welcome anyone but cis men, you are ensuring any masc person will be scrutinized: you are outing them trans, or you are implying that they don't belong if they "pass" too well. I've had my crotch peeped several times at FLINTA events. I don't got to ABCD events ever because they blatantly out me as trans. 1/3
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@Cai@gamepad.club · Feb 09, 2026

I have ventured into the word of Matrix (no, not THE, just Matrix) to give it a go as a discord alternative - I need something to pitch to friends who are unwilling to put effort in beyond making an account. I wish I was a person who already self-hosted, but alas, I was late to the internet and have never taken the time to learn. Partner has done some hosting in the past, but we're both overwhelmed as it is, and don't have much more to give. It'd be nice to cut the friends away from discord tho

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@Cai@gamepad.club · Feb 09, 2026
I am still on the look out for crocuses, because all of my friends here seem to be finding them everywhere! But I at least have captured some snowdrops (they're certainly everywhere) and winter aconite, even if they weren't blooming for me. #bloomscrolling
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@Cai@gamepad.club · Feb 05, 2026
I watched Mother of Flies and am super impressed with what the Adams family managed with a micro budget and a dream. I did almost close it because of the terrible acting that is particularly painful in the beginning, but I'm glad I stuck with it. What a beautifully shot movie, and it's so watch to see a witch's story that doesn't end in a disappointing turn to Christianity as savior. I paused a few times just to admire the imagery.
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@Cai@gamepad.club · Feb 01, 2026
@avaelin@tech.lgbt I'm sorry that happened 😩 I had many a really bad time in "women's spaces," before coming out. They can be incredibly homophobic and transphobic, esp if they're dominated by cishets. Don't let it turn you off from seeking better groups, though, because solid and supportive women's groups really can be some of the safest places for queer women and that sisterhood is so important. I hope you find a better space. Fuck this one, ugh
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@Cai@gamepad.club · Feb 01, 2026
Today I had a tiny pang of sadness when I realized with my voice so different these days, I'll never sing songs from Anastasia in the same way, nor hit Cosette's high notes. And I don't have recordings of myself from when I could. The one aspect of my voice I used to love was its sound in song, and the joy of a natural vibrato. I guess I'll have to learn how to sing again, this time on a different register. Ah well, it is a minor sadness amidst the overwhelming number of joys. Still, RIP, voice
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@Cai@gamepad.club · Jan 29, 2026
@bearmine@gamepad.club Things are still in a much better place than they were, mostly my own mental and physical health-wise. I can't overstate that aspect. But the cruelty of US debt is a fucking spectre that will not DIE. And with medical in particular, I have felt so violated and dehumanized by the system that sometimes just thinking about the debt makes me spiral. It's not even that much anymore, after years of paying. But I can't make all these payments: medi, cc, and loan, and something has to give.
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Downsides to breaking down while on the phone with medical billing providers and crying to the operator: basically everything. Completely humiliating, 0/10 experience. Would not recommend. Upside: low
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@Cai@gamepad.club · Jan 29, 2026
Downsides to breaking down while on the phone with medical billing providers and crying to the operator: basically everything. Completely humiliating, 0/10 experience. Would not recommend. Upside: lower monthly payment I guess
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@Cai@gamepad.club · Jan 28, 2026

If anyone out there is looking for a beta reader or someone to critique a piece of writing, I can personally vouch for Sam. Not only have I read her work and lcan confirm she is a writer, she is STAUNCHLY anti-AI. She doesn't use it for writing or editing, doesn't condone it, and finds its use in the arts abhorrent.

So. If you're looking for someone who will NOT be cranking your work through a slopbot, please keep her in mind :blobheart:

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@Cai@gamepad.club · Jan 27, 2026

I am teetering on the edge of throwing my laptop out the window to rid myself of the terrible editing software I have to use for this class.

Assignment is due tomorrow at midnight and I have an incredible amount of work left to do. Shouldn't take very long to do it, except the software is not optimized and is also buggy as fuck :headache_kirk:

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@Cai@gamepad.club · Jan 23, 2026

Yesterday I binged Chain Reactions, The Thing, and The Texas Chainsaw Massacre and today I'm feeling much better about the world. Horror, especially horror I grew up with, is such a catharsis to me : :blob_cat_heart: It also makes me really want to write

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